Friday, January 25, 2008


So, there have been a lot of very strange and unpleasant things happening to me lately. Tonight, to cap off a crappy week, my ex-husband called me. WTF?!?! Why? Why did he call? Am I just being immature? Am I supposed to be friends with him? I've long since let go of the anger towards him, and I have forgiven him for a good many of the bad things that he did, but I don't want to be friends with him. I don't want us call each other and compare notes on how life has gone since we split. Why? Why would either of us want that? I don't want to know about him, and I don't want to share my current life with him either. Is this weird or am I just over-reacting?


Kate said...

You're not overreacting. I agree on the weirdness factor. Some of us move on and some of us "move on" but don't really let go,to use a few Dr.Phil/Oprah cliches. You witnessed my own personal weird moment this summer - where someone from my past really seemed to want to make a connection and "catch up". I don't know why, and I haven't yet been able to understand what made him want to have a "how are you?" chat. Vanity? Regret? I'm leaning towards the first. I'm a little biased on this, but I think your reaction is perfectly normal. I'm not a fan of surprises like that myself. I wish there was such a thing as mental mace - you know, something akin to pepper spray that makes the individual never want to think about you again. Something that could be applied at the initial parting, so that you didn't have to repeat yourself later on.

queenmamajen said...

Yup, some dear darlin' lady at church accosted me with my ex-husband's engagement pic right as I walked in the door. I've been happily remarried for 5 years now!

She said "I thought you'd want to know!"
My response? "Not really, but thanks!"

She hasn't bothered me about it since. :)